Professional vs Personable

In all of the actions we take in life, we’re representing who we are – from a status update on Twitter to the way you dress and speak, we’re constantly being judged. I was recently networking with some PR PRos over drinks where the question came up: “Who do you think is the most different outside of work?”

It should be pretty easy to keep a professional demeanor up during the workday, but these days social media and the friend/co-worker overlap is making it a little harder to distinguish the two. I know some people who have even gone so far as to create two online identities: one for work and one for friends. Others are more transparent, keeping it clear that their online identity has both personal and professional content.

It’s an ongoing ethical HR nightmare: should recruiters look at your Facebook, MySpace, etc. to make pre-hire judgments/ use as a background check?

In my experience, I felt like my blog was supposed to be more professional while I could just be myself on Facebook. Until I realized I don’t have dual personalities: I have one. Am I going to create a professional alias for myself online so people can’t see the real me? Probably not. Am I going to blog about my personal relationships for the world to see? Probably not. Not to disregard anyone who does – there really is no right or wrong answer.

I guess to me it’s all about balance: don’t hide who you are from the world but don’t post embarrassing photos of yourself online either (I’ll be the first to admit I’m guilty of both). The same goes for at work: one of the first things my boss critiqued me on was maintaining a professional appearance in my email messages. I mean, it’s not like I was writing anything inappropriate, it’s just that my boss is from an older generation and is big on separating your work relationships from your personal ones. In my opinion, the world is changing and it’s OK to be personable with your clients – your emails don’t need to be written without personality (which is kind of how I feel like some of mine ended up when edited by the ‘professional’). Just don’t get too personal.